How I put myself in the driving seat for achieving my goals

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I used to be a big idiot. Now, I am just the regular version.

The one thing that was different in this project was that it was not a project.

I decided to start running a 5k everyday as a physical activity, and to learn at least one lesson using Duolingo.

I expected to fail in one of them — possibly either one could be a backup for sticking to my goals.

Here are some lessons that helped me with my personal life, start-up life, and my friends.

#1 Giving my goals a big purpose increased the occurrences of failure.

I was keeping my goals on a ‘pedestal’. They became too important…


Let us be lovers of the heart,
Everyday is a new start.

Let us be teammates in our shared lives,
What really matter, are our burning, inner drives.

Let us be leaders and not pleasers, for our friends and our family,
Let us stand up for ourselves, firmly yet calmly.

Let us use our intelligence with more interaction,
Let us replace seeking praise, with our own treasured satisfaction.

It's powerful that we have internal discipline,
It's important to reach and learn from, places we've not yet seen.

Who we know outside, and what we have inside,
Acceleretaes our journey, after our hearts have fully cried.

Not just people but also we are wedded, to our own inner dream,
It all crashes everytime, without steady self-esteem.

You are much more than what you think you are,
My love, my dream, you are my Ultimate North Star.


Without using jargon from psychology

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People can be great actors, especially when in crisis.

They can beat Oscar awardees in disguising what they feel, and what they show to the external world.

This is disguised as passion at times. In most cases, they are simply scared to show their real feelings to someone else. What if…

Unlike physical symptoms of being unwell, mental wellbeing does not come with easily detectable indicators. Except, if you want to detect them yourself.

Before we see the indicators for knowing that your mental health needs a boost, let’s see three indicators that mean that you are in a good…


Who will you still judge today?

I grew up performing under great stress — both for education and personal life. And I felt good about myself those days.

I learned how to keep up ‘high standards’, to achieve the highest possible quality of my work.

What I missed that I was feeding my ‘inner critic’.

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When I grew up and navigated through a wider variety of life than presented in my childhood, I struggled to keep up to my impossible standards.

My inner critic grew louder.

This went on for years before I knew about my inner cheerleader.

Looking at scientific solutions in psychology, I realised…


Our most powerful teammate against our inner critic

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Our inner personal cheerleader is our first friend. It is our best friend. Unconditionally.

Like our inner critic, this voice is formed from the past memories that we chose to keep.

However, this voice plays for our team.

The voice in our head that criticises us in general is not our own voice. We learned about it in the other articles and videos.

Our personal cheerleader is our first, closest and unconditional best friend.

If you already have a best friend (or many best friends) in the external world, you are very lucky and blessed. Many people do not have…


Green is not about jealousy here!

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“No one cares

How much you know,

Until they know

How much you care”

There are times that we feel down. In general. Just down. Why?

Irrespective of how good are we with our skills and abilities, and how good our calendar management is, there are times that we feel, not ready?

Emotions affect us in more ways than we know. How we manage them is more important than managing our time and tasks.

Emotions, feelings, moods — they affect us.

We may be in the best of conditions outside, we may be fitting the skillsets more than anyone, however…


Avoid the big trap of ‘I can do everything’

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My biggest distraction from an important task used to be an equally important task.

In the last two decades, I have personally interacted with more than 400 founders and they all have faced the same issues with prioritising tasks.

Some of them gave me useful science-based pointers.

There have been many frameworks and books on this topic.

I found a combination of the ‘Impact vs Complexity Framework’ and ‘The Green Zone of Emotions’ as the most effective. …


You support your inner critic

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Only a few lucky ones amongst us have really good friends.

The rest of us, have some friends. And a few, have no friends.

Let me introduce you to a new friend. He or she may become your best friend perhaps.

But before I do so, let me ask you a few questions. Is that okay?

  • Would you shout at him or her?

I would like to know, if you would ever shout at him or her? Especially when they are feeling low. No way, you might say. I’ll let you answer it for yourself.

  • Would you praise him or…


How I stuck to my goal for 99 days (and still do)

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I completed 99 days of consecutive 5k runs. I still continue tomorrow.

The greatest thing about this project was that it was not a project.

I had suffered enough number of ‘giving up’ moments. It usually went like this: I have a big purpose (such as this one). I make great plans. And the entire thing becomes really really important for me. I miss one small thing — the entire thing becomes a prestige issue between me and myself. I get stressed. I make more mistakes. Then either I give up or having read too many self-help articles, forgive myself…


They do not exist

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If you meet a founder who say s/he has never been anxious, you have just met a good actor.

  • Failure as reality
  • Anxiety as a normal human tendency versus anxiety as a problem
  • Decisions, decisions, decisions
  • Expect anxiety

Start-ups die. Start-ups face failures of all sorts. Everyday. Start-ups want to prove themselves to their customers, investors and even to themselves.

Everyday they face situations that generate anxiety in any human. Some founders manage it well, some don’t.

Many founders find it very difficult to admit that they have a problem with anxiety. These are only the subset of those founders…

Jeev Sahoo

Startups. Micro Angel Investor. CBT. 20y with corp giants. 400+ founders. HEC Paris. HBS Online. UK. Updates at https://step8up-soft-skills.ck.page/7d6224f434

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